- What is marriage anyways?
- Will it be different if I did not marry and just get ladies to have my children?
- Is the Christian faith too restrictive to the extent it hinders the human desire to be truly free?
- Is marriage worth dealing with annoying in-laws?
- Why do people who once said they were in love and got married fell out of that love?
- Is love really what it is hyped up to be? or is it just another mumbo jumbo?
- Is love temporal and not for ever?
Hello Xxxxx --- I had thought that I could trust us to manage this transition period that we are faced with in a very cooperating and civil manner, to my disappointment, based on my last phone conversation with you on Friday July 22 around 9:30 AM. It seems to me that certain people are giving you wrong guidance which have little bearing with what can be considered reasonable constraints under the law. Yes, it is true that unscrupulous people and decadent rich people have used the courts to pervert justice; by and large the courts always look at documented evidence to make fair judgments. With this said, I believe in the judicial system to be fair.
I will like to remind you that what we have set up by the court (through your attorney) is a temporary arrangement. It will become final when the divorce decree has been rendered. I want to advice you that you should not allow your primitive whims for boastful disposition to overshadow that which is logical and acceptable by law.
Bear in mind that you are the one who filed for divorce. I have on my own, and rightfully so, decided not to contest it. I welcome it whole heartedly contrary to the impression and lies that you may be circulating amongst your family and your friends. This is how much I have accepted it --- you will NOT see any member of my family calling you to ask you to change your mind --- I have decided, it is not their business and I have not told them except for Bose and my father. If I told them I am confident they will use their own initiatives to try and persuade you not to go through with it.
When I came to the house on Thursday and spoke to your sister, which is a huge mistake on my part. I am surprised that she was acting as if she is the ultimate decider --- the only time she raised her voice was to say and I quote “this marriage is over”, she said it loud enough, I am certain the children heard her --- that is really unbecoming of a good human person to say, let alone a good family member. All through this process, I have worked very hard to insulate the children from the fallouts of the marriage break down. The comment that she made was not in her place to make, she spoke out of place and out of turn. That comment is absolute; it is only God who can bring the marriage to an end. I personally have not prayed for the marriage to be restored, I know some other people have, without me asking them to, because it will be hypocritical on my part to pray for such thing when I myself want out of the marriage --- now you see the foolishness in the comment that your sister made. If I truly did not want you to go, I will go on my knees with fasting and God will cause you to change your mind, the point is, I see no point in praying that you should not have your wish.
It is not a secret that your sister is evil and wicked --- you, yourself told me that the last time she visited back in early 2005, she did buy McDonald sandwich to which she gave only to her son, Brian, while her sister’s children were there to watch her wickedness at play. You see facts are very stubborn, they are hard to erase. If I have the choice, I will like for her to not be anywhere near my children. She is a pollutant, she is toxic and she can kill with her manipulative ways.
As I was talking to her last Thursday, I see a picture of someone who is not happy, despite that she is trying to hide it, I could deduce that she is not even well liked among her peers and the people she works with and yet she has the audacity to suggest to me to go for counseling. Who made her my adviser??? Definitely, not I. She is nothing but an irritant ant. While I was in Nigeria, I had the pleasure of speaking with your other sister, Nkoli, her position is very clear and unambiguous, and it is the same position held by the two people who I told the situation to amongst the members of my family.
Now let me get back to the real reason for this email and leave the little irritant alone to her wickedness.
· I will like you to leave the contents of the office “as is” until the divorce is final when I will arrange immediately to come and move everything else that is left in the house. I hope I don’t have to make you through the court to refrain, yes I mean refrain from entering or using that office until after the divorce hearing is over when truly the house by legal rights becomes yours. You have not previously had or maintained any history of using this office in the past, and this is eleven years of history. This should not be too difficult for you to comply with.
The letter of the document which you filed actually stated that neither of us can take stuffs out nor sell stuffs during this temporary arrangement, even though it granted you the use of the furniture exclusively. If you are not clear on this, I will suggest that you ask your attorney; after all you are paying her to rightfully guide you through this process she has initiated on your behalf.
I will like for Eni to help me move all my shoes still left in the closet in the master bedroom into the office and arrange them against the wall in an orderly manner, I will call him and communicate this to him.
Moving forward, I will send by certified mail the house keys that I have in my procession to your attorney to help hand over to you. I have no desire, like you wrongly asserted to do one leg in, one leg out with you. I have not such interest towards you.
Many thanks,
